Applying Self Control
“If you learn self-control, you’ll can master anything.” So, the question is, do I really have self-control over things no matter what happens and the circumstance that surround the situation?
Good morning/day, Friends. A bless and fruitful day to you.
Most times we encounter people who act and respond by anything, simply because they lack the self-control syndrome, You perhaps could hear something like, I cannot take this from you and anyone, and may put on a different display of a bad attitude that show their inner individual.
This because that is who they really are, and they have no rule over their action. This make them like a city without wall, because anyone can simply predict their action by words and doing that may result to them picking up any offense.
I would say to have self-control means you must first know your true self.
Who are you in the inside?
What is your true self?
Your true self isn’t other-worldly, and you don’t have to call it the soul, Atman, or higher self. The experience is what matters, and experiences of the true self occur all the time. These experiences are marked by how they feel:
Those are the basic hallmarks. But as experiences of the true self deepen, a wide range of feelings begin to emerge, including:
So, self-control is essential to success, in relation to your daily habits, your character, your attitude, your emotions, and your actions. Some people are able to control themselves in order to do what needs to be done to make them successful, while others have a lack of self-control over themselves, which leads them to be a loser.
Self-control isn’t weakness. Self-control is power that is placed under subjection or a power that is regulated.
You see, there’s power everywhere. All kinds of energy in man. Spiritual power, Intellectual power, Emotional power, Physical power, Sexual power, Financial power, People power etc… But in these powers are all kinds of actions hidden within them that can determine our response to words, actions, people, situations, events etc. But how you use them determines your level of effectiveness and maturity.
Proverbs 25:28 “He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.”
The word rule there is control or to have a hold-over. The word spirit there is literally used to describe the state of your inner condition or personality per-time. I.e He’s talking about your emotions. He that has no control over his/her emotions is like a city without defense.
Notice, the powers are there, but the powers that have no walls limiting it’s flow is power that is dangerous. Think about a river without boundaries and how destructive it is. Think about a child without parental guide and what would become of him/her.
Think about a nation without a leader and picture the level of damage and insecurity that everyone in that nation would experience. Imagine what everyone of these situations would be without boundaries.
Humility isn’t weakness. Putting a boundary to your emotional feelings isn’t weakness. Putting a hold over a feeling of anger isn’t foolishness. Many have by not applying self-control left those God sent to help them.
For no self-control destroyed a courting relationship that should be a standard, for no self-control walked out of God’s blessings and now they cannot say sorry, they cannot go back, they cannot remedy the situation because it is now too late.
God does give second chances, but let not your anger go down with the sun. Do not become the one who stop yourself from the plan of God in your life.
How to Know You Have Your True Self Control
- A sense of mental and physical lightness.
- Feeling more centered in yourself.
- Feeling safe.
- Knowing that your life has meaning.
- A sense of bliss in everyday activity.
- Lessening of negative emotions like fear, anger, guilt, or shame.
- An increase in “aha” moments of insight.
- The end of a fear of death.
- Feelings of love, kindness, and empathy.
- A desire to serve rather than to live only for yourself.
None of these experiences are miraculous; everyone has had them at times, even if memory and conditioning have clouded them over. Removing the cloudiness is part of the process of waking up. The ultimate value of the true self is that you wake up to who you really are.