The Process For Romantic Relationship To Commitment
The Process For Romantic Relationship To Commitment.
Every ladies dream is to have a romantic man as a life spouse, someone who think differently and knows how to make theme do the impossible and see beyond their shortcoming. While to some dudes, one of the qualities they sought from a lady partner as romantic, it first has to do with the lady physical attraction. I don’t know if that makes some men adopt the act of being romantic to their wife/fiancée, but sure you won’t want to spend the rest of their life with a lady who is not physically attractive to make you act romantic.
And from another view, you tend to consider if body attraction does really keep up to make a relationship romantic? Or when it comes to being romantic in a relationship ladies/woman looks beyond 6 packs, though most crave to have a man who is physically fit but knows how to make them go very enthusiastic. And men see beyond the physical attraction that attract each other’s. So, today I’ll walk you along with some personal opinions of mine, on the process for romantic relationship to commitment.
Some hours back, read a post online from some individuals defining a romantic relationship, but according to one of the comments from the group of persons who defined a romantic relationship said:
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“A woman once told me, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you. What the hell does that mean? It means, she is not that interested. She cared, but not in a romantic way. A romantic relationship means that it has passed the friendship or platonic stage, that there is a romantic feeling or attraction toward each other. Otherwise you remain friends or acquaintances.”
Before we proceed I’ll like to know what define a romantic relationship from your opinion? And thanks, if you drop your comment.
In thinking about the different types of relationships, it is important to realize that you can have a romantic relationship with someone you care to spend the rest of your life with. In every relationship, there are moments when the romance is so intense and then, there are times when a couple can’t seem to agree on anything or can’t stand one other. But you also have to know that in a healthy romantic relationship, both partners respect each other and have their own identity.
Each partner is an entire individual, not simply part of a couple. Just as peer pressure can negatively impact a friendship, partners can overpower each other and create instability in a romantic relationship. Either way, relationships are bound to change during years, especially in the area of romance. So,here are five major stages you’re bound to go through in every relationship.
As the name suggests, the initial stage of a romantic relationship occurs when two people have not interacted. For example, you may see someone you are attracted to on the first day of class and think to yourself, “I really want to meet her.” Our attraction for someone may motivate us to move beyond the no interaction stage to see if there is a possibility of developing a romantic relationship.
This is the initial phase when both parties have just met when the interest and fascination in one another is at a high. This is when the sparks start to fly around and attraction slowly builds up through communication.
When we are attracted to someone, we may signal or invite them to interact with us. For example, you can do this by asking them to dinner, to dance at a club, or even, “I really liked that movie. What did you think?” The significance here is in the relational level (how the people feel about each other) rather than the content level (the topic) of the message.
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When individuals respond favorably to our invitational communication we then engage in explorational communication. In this stage, we share information about ourselves while looking for mutual interests, shared political or religious views, and similarities in family background. Self-disclosure increases so we can give and receive personal information in a way that fosters trust and intimacy. Common dating activities in this stage include going to parties or other publicly structured events, such as movies or a concert, that foster interaction and self-disclosure.
If we continue to be attracted (mentally, emotionally, and physically) to one another, we begin engaging in intensifying communication. This is the happy stage (the “relationship high”) where we cannot bear to be away from the other person. It is here that you might plan all of your free time together, and begin to create a private relational culture.
This is the full-blown romance stage. At this stage, everything your partner does is flawless. You don’t see their mistake as you’re completely smitten. In fact, you tend to see similar traits rather than their shortcomings. We tend to idealize one another in that we downplay faults, seeing only the positive qualities of the other person.
At the setting in stage you have gotten acquainted with yourselves. When the “relational high” begins to wear off, couples begin to have a more realistic perspective of one another, and the relationship as a whole.
At this point, you start to make compromises in order to accept each other’s differences. It is usually a painful time for some in relationships as the illusion of a ‘perpetual romance’ begins to fizzle out.
Here, people may recognize the faults of the other person that they so idealized in the previous stage. Also, couples must again make decisions about where to go with the relationship—do they stay together and work toward long-term goals, or define it as a short-term relationship? A couple may be deeply in love and also make the decision to break off the relationship for a multitude of reasons. Perhaps one person wants to join to travel to a different city for greener pasture after graduation, while the other wants to settle down in their hometown. Their individual needs and goals may not be compatible to sustain a long-term commitment.
Some, in this phase, may be consumed with disappointment and discontent.
Commitment in relationships
This is when you start going the extra mile to find the sparks that were once flying around effortlessly in your relationship. This occurs when a couple makes the decision to make the relationship a permanent part of their lives. In this stage, the participants assume they will be in each other’s lives forever and make joint decisions about the future. Extra effort is required to keep the romance alive and the relationship going.
This is usually when one can tell if a partner is really committed to the relationship. While marriage is an obvious sign of commitment it is not the only signifier of this stage. Some may mark their intention of staying together in a commitment ceremony, or by registering as domestic partners.
Obviously, simply committing is not enough to maintain a relationship through tough times that occur as couples grow and change. Like a ship set on a destination, a couple must learn to steer though rough waves as well as calm waters. A couple can accomplish this by learning to communicate through the good and the bad.
At this stage when you have to decide if you’re in it for the long haul. The commitment stage is where the journey actually begins. It is when you assess the affair and determine where you both stand so as to decide on the next course of action.
This is when you ask yourself: do I stay or bail?
Both partners, at this stage, will have to decide if they are willing to stay together or end the affair.